TEXT: PSALM 139:13, 14
GOD’S GIFT OF MARRIAGE: FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE
Rev. Kenneth W. Wieting


Dear Christiana and Charlie, family and friends; the title of the book we have used for a portion of our pre-marriage conversations is One plus One equals One!  It highlights the mystery of two who become one flesh in God’s gift of marriage.  The gift of marriage is fearfully and wonderfully made even as each of you are so created by God.  Hear God’s Word from the 139th Psalm (13-14) “For you created my inmost being, you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.


Charlie and Christiana, each of you was knit together in your mother’s womb and known by God before you were born.  You are two separate creations from His hand and you have been a delight to your parents.  As proclaimed by your chosen Psalm – you were like olive shoots around their table (Psalm 128:3).  As you were present in your families through the years, each of you grew and matured with thoughts and experiences, which are only your own.  Your parents see you as rich gifts from God’s hand and give thanks that you desire to walk in His ways.  What the Psalm says so beautifully surely fits - I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. 


And now you come together in a relationship in which two become one.  Today you will speak your commitment to live contentedly and God-pleasingly in this intimate, inseparable union unto death.  Now you enter a God-given union that is also fearfully and wonderfully made.  Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  One plus One equals One!

WEDDING SERMON – EWERT – WOLTERS – MAY 29, 2015
TEXT: PSALM 139:13, 14
GOD’S GIFT OF MARRIAGE: FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE
Rev. Kenneth W. Wieting


Dear Christiana and Charlie, family and friends; the title of the book we have used for a portion of our pre-marriage conversations is One plus One equals One!  It highlights the mystery of two who become one flesh in God’s gift of marriage.  The gift of marriage is fearfully and wonderfully made even as each of you are so created by God.  Hear God’s Word from the 139th Psalm (13-14) “For you created my inmost being, you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.


Charlie and Christiana, each of you was knit together in your mother’s womb and known by God before you were born.  You are two separate creations from His hand and you have been a delight to your parents.  As proclaimed by your chosen Psalm – you were like olive shoots around their table (Psalm 128:3).  As you were present in your families through the years, each of you grew and matured with thoughts and experiences, which are only your own.  Your parents see you as rich gifts from God’s hand and give thanks that you desire to walk in His ways.  What the Psalm says so beautifully surely fits - I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. 


And now you come together in a relationship in which two become one.  Today you will speak your commitment to live contentedly and God-pleasingly in this intimate, inseparable union unto death.  Now you enter a God-given union that is also fearfully and wonderfully made.  Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  One plus One equals One!


Our society does not view it that way and does not honor God’s gift of life or God’s gift of marriage.  The womb is not viewed as God’s knitting room – a place of safety for the living but unborn.  Marriage is viewed in educational and entertainment and governmental realms as incidental to personal preference and malleable to changing cultural desires.  In such manner, modern man is the loser of a priceless treasure.  For love is from God and the gifts God gives to us He always gives out of His steadfast love.  Of the male and female God created He said, A man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh!  So they are no longer two, but one.  One plus One equal One! 

 

Charlie and Christiana, this union in which the two of you now become one is a mystery, even as the Holy Trinity is a mystery, in which three are one.  Your one-flesh union can draw true life and love only from the God who is one.  The love in the union of the Holy Trinity is perfect.  Of the Father Jesus said, you loved me before the foundation of the world (John 17:24).  Of Jesus, the Father said, This is my beloved Son in whom I am well pleased. 


Your one-flesh union as husband and wife is always to put the other first reflecting the very activity of the Holy Trinity.  Of the Father Jesus said, I have come to do your will, O God (Heb. 10:7).  Even in bloody sweat over the approaching cup of God’s wrath against the sin of the world He said, Thy will be done.  Of the Holy Spirit, Jesus said, The Helper…from the Father…will bear witness about me (John 15:26).  He will glorify me (John 16:14).  As the Scripture bears witness to the activity of the Holy Trinity – it is always love and service and sacrifice at work – and always for us sinners.  


Charlie – to seek to love Christiana as Christ loves His Bride – as her head to always put her first – to daily lay down your life for her in communication (especially listening) and understanding and care and encouragement is not natural to your sinful heart.  Nor is it natural in your heart Christiana to order your life in respect to your husband – to line up with up not against him to face life’s battles - always putting Him first. 


Because two old Adams are also in the mix, two who become one will have times of tension and disappointment and perhaps downright disagreement of perspective.  The faults of one’s spouse are seen with closeness and clarity unmatched in the other roles and responsibilities of life.  Only in this relationship does One plus one equal One!  With two sinners so intimately connected, there may be moments when Christian husbands and wives question whether the words “fearfully and wonderfully made” really apply to that stubborn spouse or to God’s gift of marriage.  Throw in the Old Adam of olive shoots around the table (five boys – 3 boys and 2 girls) and – you get the picture. 


Yet this gift of marriage is so wondrously beautiful and full of joy because of the healing and the help given by the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.  By a most fearful and wonderful work of love, He imparts strength and joy and love and forgiveness to two who are one in Christ.  That work centers on the Word made flesh - fearfully and wonderfully knit together in the womb of His Virgin Mother - Mary.  This oneness – of God and man in one person – is the miracle of the ages - His body fit for sacrifice.

 

On Calvary He, in effect, said to us sinners – with this cross I thee wed.  On the cross He extended no ring to put on our finger.  Rather He shed His blood to wash us clean – to present us to God as His holy Bride, without spot or blemish or any other stain.  He paid our debt to God.  This is how we know what love is that Jesus Christ laid down His life for us (1 John 3:16)!  Now, risen from the grave and Ascended with all authority in heaven and on earth, He brings the fruits of His cross and His love to us today.  The riches of His cleansing blood He brought to you Charles and to you Christiana in Holy Baptism – a washing that covers you with Christ even to this day (Gal 3:27).  The beauty of your bride Charlie points to our underserved beauty to Christ.  It is beauty He refreshes and recreates as He continues to serve us in the heavenly feast of His body and His blood until He calls us to the marriage feast of the Lamb which has no end.    


Charlie and Christiana – it is such a joy for  us that the two of you met through the university student center here – a southerner from UWM and a northerner from CUW.  It has been a joy for me to talk with you about the gift the Holy Trinity gives you today.  Each of you is fearfully and wonderfully made.  Today the Holy Trinity gives you a union that is also fearfully and wonderfully made in which One plus One equals One!  God bless you with deep marital joy in Him all the days of your life together.  In the Name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.  Amen.

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